Grown up kids

I realise that I have lots of weaknesses. One of them is being judgemental. I find myself judging people just like that, noticing their faults and all. Gees, what about my faults? I need to learn to accept and love people as they are , just like God loves me.

Have a situation at home right now. I have 3 brothers (who are like grown up kids) who came over here to look for 'greener pastures' . Of course I love them all and want the best for them, but many times I resent them for "making me look after them". I just feel they are too relaxed and not making real effort to get jobs. I feel robbed of the time when I should be enjoying my singlehood, enjoying my home etc. Now it's like being back at my parent's home. The worst bit is they abuse alcohol any time they get their hands on it and just seem not to be able to handle money.

My strategy now is to accept them and the situation as it is, assist them whenever they ask for help but at the same time avoid over-indulging them and avoid creating their dependency on me. Time for tough love. I can only live and be responsible for my life and they have to accept responsibility fo theirs. I always read that one cannot change another person. That's a recipe for disaster. It is the person themself who have to want and be willing to change.

Talk about learning life lessons. Good news is this will not stop me from pursuing my dreams and I have made it absolutely clear.